by Tammie McKay

We all think of dating as something you do in order to start a relationship and eventually get to the end goal: marriage.

However, most don’t think of “dating” the person with whom they will be spending their lives. Although you may feel that your relationship is going well and there are no issues, it is still important to have time alone—a date—with your significant other.

Let’s face it, these days, everyone is  busy. Between work, family and social commitments, there’s hardly enough time to watch your favorite show or catch up on the news, let alone carve out time for a “date night” with your partner. Here are five reasons why “date night” is a must.


Communication is a key factor of any intimate relationship. Through communication, couples can discuss distractions, such as children and career demands. Date nights also offer couples the opportunity to discuss topics that don’t revolve around the children or daily home life.


Most couples experience a “settling in”—a time in which they are   likely to take each other for granted. Believing that “we are a couple” can create an ordinary domestic routine. Having a deficit in fun and originality can be toxic. Incorporating activities that emphasizes novel and different experiences can help increase intimacy.

Being Connected

Over time, some couples find that the spark, excitement and overwhelming attraction to each other tend to fade away. Having a “date night” allows a couple to focus on their connection; the spark may be restored during the pursuit of romance and intimate conversations. Date nights may also rekindle the romance, which then leads to an understanding of why they are so necessary.

Eliminating Stress

Couples who engage in regular “date nights” may maintain a connection through conversation and support. This can also reduce mental stress. We don’t need to connect perfectly with our partner, but we do have to preserve and develop the ability to pay attention and be present when they are stressed. Couples need to learn to be a loyal and reliable friend to each other.

Relationship Commitment

Commitment can be scary. Date nights help you reinforce a sense of stability and a deeply satisfying relationship. When partners cherish each other, they steer clear of romantic opportunities outside the relationship and are significantly more happy than those who are less committed.

A couple that puts forth the effort to spend time together and continue the growth of their relationship is more likely to grow stronger and closer, staying in it for the long haul. It doesn’t matter what you do or where you go; it’s the action: curl up on the couch, watch a movie, eat pizza and cuddle. You’ll feel more connected and loved. Trust in that.